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The Laws of Unattraction: Top 10 Appealing, Eye-Catching and Attractive Tips On How to STOP Being Unattractive from Janice Taylor, beliefnet Blogger.

Chances are you've heard about the Laws of Attraction. The basic concept is that you attract into your life whatever you think about. Positive thoughts and beliefs create a positive life; negative thoughts and beliefs attract negativity.

One sure way to get those positive vibes swirling out there is to be attracted to yourself, in a healthy and self-affirming way (not in a narcissistic, oh my goodness, Im the greatest ever, wheres the mirror I need to look at myself again - kind of way). Truthfully, if you arent attracted to you, if you dont fully recognize your qualities and embrace yourself, how attractive could you possibly be to the universe.

One thing we dont want to do is throw a false blanket of positivity on top of a basement full of unattractive thoughts and behaviors. Lets get in there, excavate, STOP .. and make some mind-altering changes and create space for the positive life that we are craving!

Top 10 Appealing, Eye-Catching and Attractive Tips on How to STOP Being Unattractive

1. STOP doing what is bad for you!
Keep in mind that determining what is bad is completely subjective. So dig deep and be honest. Make a list of at least ten things that you are currently doing that are bad for you from sleeping too late, to eating too much, to dating bad boys! Or bad girls, for that matter. And then STOP doing those things!

2. STOP doing what you others think you should do!
Its one thing to be respectful and responsive to others, and its another to live your life the way others want you to or think that you should! You heretofore have permission to lead your own life, the way you want to. No should about it!

3. STOP being so darn nice!
You dont have to be that nice all the time. You dont have to say yes to requests that you want to say no to. You dont have to smile and make small talk when you are exhausted. You can even be cranky once in a while.

4. STOP moving so fast!
Would ya please SLOW down? Youre making me dizzy. I know that we all want to get from A to Z in a flash, but seriously, youre missing the nuances and beauty of the journey. Take in a deep breath, and pay attention to each and every remarkable part of your journey. You dont really want to rush through your life and miss it, do you?

5. STOP trying!
As Yoda from star wars says, Do or do not there is no try. Every time you say that you are trying to do something, you are essentially making certain that you have a way out. Theres no commitment in trying. How many times have you said, Ill try to make it to your party. -or- Ill try to stop by. Did you?

6. STOP measuring your success by comparing yourself to others.
Human beings have a need to make order, rank things, and create points of reference, because it helps us to make choices and set priorities in life. However, comparing ourselves to others is a trap. It only leads to jealousy, bitterness and a sense of losing when someone else is succeeding. There is nothing to compare. We are unique individuals on our uniquely individual journey.

7. STOP trying to be someone else.
As Oscar Wilde so fittingly stated, Be yourself; everyone else is already taken. Let go of worrying about how you others perceive you, think about you, or what they might be saying about you. In order to be yourself, you have to tap into and go with your inner flow. Be open and honest. Youve got absolutely nothing to hide; nothing to be ashamed of; nothing to be insecure about. Embrace your uniqueness.

8. STOP reacting to life.
Take in a deep breath and start responding to life and directing it! You have an opportunity to step back and take an objective look at your unattractive knee-jerk, automated reactions to things. Take in a deep breath, and create a space in which you can take action that is in alignment with your future.

9. STOP doing the same things the same way.
At one time or another, weve all experienced what its like to press the print button on our keyboards and have nothing happen. What do we do when the paper doesnt print? We hit the print button again and again and again, to no avail. If your life isnt working as well as it might, try finding a new point of view!

10. STOP denying yourself.
Its okay to be selfish. If the word selfish holds a negative connotation for you, substitute the word self-full. Take absolute care of yourself eliminate stress, do things that bring you extreme pleasure, give yourself the things that you desire, and take time to just sit and recharge your batteries. Not only is it a good idea to be self-full, its a generous act. Theres no way you can effectively help another, if you are running on self-empty.

What is unattractive about you?

Spread the word (NOT the icing!),
Janice

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