The Pitbull of Personal Development® and New York Times bestselling author is back with advice on the dumb things people do to sabotage their success.
What do people really want? They want what they’ve got. It’s a simple formula. You have what you want because your actions produced your results. Not your words, and certainly not your wants.
In his signature caustic yet lovable style, Larry Winget dishes out straight talk on what he calls “life’s messes,” and offers sound, simple solutions. Taking on business, family, health, being fat, being stupid, success, money, and more, Larry Winget points out exactly which changes have to take place in order for people to turn their lives around.
A little bit of business, a little bit of personal development, a little finance, a little parenting, a little health and wellness, People Are Idiots and I Can Prove It! will help anyone identify their own “areas of stupidity” and take action to finally achieve real success.
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INTRODUCTION
WHY SUCH AN OBNOXIOUS TITLE?
Chances are, when you first saw this book and my handsome
face smiling back at you from the cover, you read the title and
responded in one of two ways: You said either "He's got that
right!" or "Who the hell does this guy think he is?" Either way,
I got a reaction from you. That was my purpose.
For those of you in the first category who agree with what I
say in the title, you probably even said to yourself, "I could have
written this book." It seems like we all recognize that people
are idiots, when they are idiots and how they are being idiots.
Those of you in the latter category probably think I am
rude and arrogant, and that I am the idiot for saying other
people are idiots. I knew that was going to be the first response
from a good number of people when they read the title. The
title is pretty explosive, and many people won't even bother to
pick up the book to find out what it's about. They won't like the
title, won't buy the book and won't read the book. Yet they will
rush home to hop on their computer, where they will go to one
of the zillion or so Internet blogs that review books or to the
online sites where you can buy books, where they will happily
trash both the book and me for even daring to write a book that
calls people idiots.
I am way ahead of you on this one because I have been
down this road before. So for those of you who have made it
this far, I applaud you. You have proven you are open to hearing
a unique viewpoint and are willing to learn more of what I have
to say. You are giving me a chance to explain my position. I believe
everyone deserves the chance to explain themselves if for
no other reason than to give you an informed reason to disagree
with them. At least by giving me that chance, when you see all
of those attacks against me and this book, you will know the
truth. You will have an informed opinion. You can then trash
the book or praise it all you want. You will have earned the right
because you have read it.
SELF– HELP OR SHELF– HELP?
Many books never make it off the bookstore shelf. I think it is
because they look and sound boring. I believe it is important to
get people's attention. To do that, you have to be bold. Bold in
what you say or do. Bold in your appearance. If what you have
looks like what everyone else has, then it will be considered to
be just like what everyone else has. Make sense to you?
I am fairly bold in the way I dress. (Did he just say fairly?)
You did see the cover, didn't you? I wear brightly colored, sequined
cowboy shirts and custom cowboy boots. I have a shaved
head and a strange little Amish– style goatee. I wear earrings and
enough jewelry to open a jewelry store at a moment's notice with
just what I'm wearing. I don't look like your typical self– help
guru. That's okay; my advice isn't typical either. When I appear
on one of the national television shows talking about money and
there is a panel of experts all in suits, with one person looking
much like the next, there I am sticking out like the proverbial
sore thumb. Do people respond to my appearance? Of course
they do. One guy wrote a critique saying, "How can you take
financial advice from someone who dresses like a rodeo clown?"
That made me laugh! Most people applaud that I have the guts
to dress the way I want. I get letters from people saying, "I wish
I could to that!" I speak to Fortune 500 companies that want to
make sure I wear all of my garb and even ask if I'll wear my sunglasses
onstage when I speak. But like it or hate it, people recognize
it and remember it. It's bold. It gets noticed. I dress boldly
and I make bold statements in both my speaking and my writing.
That boldness carries over to the titles of my books as well.
"People are idiots" is a statement that you don't see or hear
every day. We all think it from time to time; you just don't see it
or hear it spelled out much. There are lots of books with titles
like The Ten Keys to Success and The Secrets to Attracting What You
Want. You have seen them just as I have. Safe little books with
safe little titles that try to convince you that you can do anything
if you will only believe! I think people are tired of that
worn– out approach and are more sophisticated than to buy into
the same old motivational mumbo jumbo that has been said
over and over in the same way so many times. I believe most
people see a title like that and say to themselves, "Same old crap
from some do–gooder motivational guy." For the most part,
they are correct. Consequently, the book just sits on the shelf
and gathers dust. While the book might actually contain some
life– changing information, it simply doesn't matter, because
people won't read it since it looks and sounds boring! What difference
does it make whether a book is good or how great the
information is inside the book if no one ever picks it up, buys it
and reads it? I have learned that basic truth with all of my
books: Titles attract attention. So selfishly and from a marketing
standpoint, it is a good idea to get people's attention. Once
you have their attention, you can begin to teach them something.
But a closed book on a shelf in a bookstore or in a library
doesn't teach anyone anything, regardless of how good the information
inside might be. The fact that you are reading this
book proves that it is no longer shelf– help.
People Are Idiots and I Can Prove It! is also a challenging title.
I like to challenge people. When people feel challenged, they
work harder. They have something to prove, even if it is just to
prove the other guy wrong. I want you to be challenged in this
book to work harder on your life so you can actually have all the
things you say you want to have.
IN THE MIDDLE OR ON THE EDGE
In every area of life and business, the people on the edge are the
ones who have made history. No one who comes from the centrist
position—that safe middle ground—ever really had much
of an impact on society. It's the people on the edge we all know
and remember. Elvis and the Beatles: musicians on the edge.
Pablo Picasso and Salvador Dalí: artists on the edge. The United
States of America would not exist if it weren't for a handful of
renegades. Benjamin Franklin, Thomas Jefferson and George
Washington were all edgy guys. Jesus was definitely on the
edge. Gandhi was on the edge. Good or bad, right or wrong, it
doesn't matter. The people who change history are not the
people who do the safe things, take the easy route, follow the
status quo or say what everyone else says or try to make everyone
happy.
I am not claming to be Elvis, Picasso, Gandhi or Jesus. I am
just a guy who has moved away from the center to offer you a
unique, edgier approach to personal development. This approach
can move you and your results from the middle to the edge.
The multitudes live in the middle, living mediocre lives,
thinking mediocre thoughts, doing mediocre things and achieving
mediocre results. Their income falls in the median range.
Their houses are in the median range. Their entire lives are
median, mediocre and stuck deeply in the middle. Sadly, most
don't even recognize their predicament because everyone they
know is stuck there in the middle with them.
WHAT IS THE PURPOSE OF THIS BOOK?
My goal is to get you unstuck from that comfortable mediocre
lifestyle and move you to the edge. The edge is where only a
few of us live. The edge is where people dare to defy their upbringing,
their education and their situation to become wildly
happy, successful and prosperous in spite of themselves. The
edge is the place you get to live once you stop lying to yourself
and everyone else and squarely face where you are, and then
decide to go to a better place. The edge is where the fun is,
where the money is and where true self– satisfaction is. The best
part of living on the edge is that it isn't crowded at all.
I wrote this book to get people's attention and remind them
they are living lives contradictory to what they say they want.
To prove to people that they are lying to themselves when they
only say they want success, happiness and prosperity. To make
people aware that their results are the results of their actions.
To show people they are sabotaging their own success and to
show them exactly what they have to do to turn their lives
around.
WHAT YOU CAN EXPECT FROM THIS BOOK
You can expect solutions. That's what I have to offer here: simple,
action– based solutions to life's situations. If I didn't give you
solutions, this book would just be a long rant about the ills of
society. What good would come from that? My goal is to present
the problems and to offer simple, action– based solutions to
fix them.
I have included lists of exactly what people can do to change
their lives in just about any area. I give a mini action plan for
success for each. I say "mini action plan" because there is no
possible way to give you a complete list of every single thing
you are going to need to do to become completely successful in
each area of your life. Nor can I provide you with a list that will
fit each and every situation of your specific predicament. Instead,
I will give you a short list that can be used to get you
started on the right track to turn your life around. My lists will
cover several common situations that most people face. The
action lists are the power and the purpose of this little book
and are my formula for success.
"Larry's frank, brutal, tough and sometimes even obnoxious! But you know something? He has a big heart and an even bigger gut for how we can avoid big mistakes."—Neil Cavuto, Fox News